Communication Brings Heaven’s Culture
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Delivered By
Bob Petersen & Ben Selby
Delivered On
April 9, 2017 at 11:00 AM

Communication Brings Heaven’s Culture


Opening & Setup

God’s people are headed for a power encounter.

Pastor Daryl prophetically knew where we were.

Right after the cross and before Pentecost

Communication Brings Unity

Communication brings unity

Unity brings Holy Spirit

Holy Spirit brings heaven culture


When we are in unity.  We can not be stopped.  

Genesis 11:5-8 NKJV 5 But the Lord came down to see the city and the tower which the sons of men had built. 6 And the Lord said, “Indeed the people are one and they all have one language, and this is what they begin to do; now nothing that they propose to do will be withheld from them. 7 Come, let Us go down and there confuse their language, that they may not understand one another’s speech.” 8 So the Lord scattered them abroad from there over the face of all the earth, and they ceased building the city.

Matthew 12:25 NKJV 25 But Jesus knew their thoughts, and said to them: “Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself will not stand. 

Tower of Babel.  But a house divided cannot stand.

Unity is a wineskin that the Spirit can be poured into.  Book of Acts. All in one accord.

When we have hidden things against one another, we keep holes in our wineskin.  This disables us from retaining what Holy Spirit wants to be doing in our midst.

When our wineskin is torn, love, joy, and peace are hard to sustain in our relationships.

Communication brings unity. 

The reason for communication is connection (unity)

We must learn how to openly and effectively communicate with one another.

Without communication, lies and suspicions get to plant their seeds in our hearts and minds, growing plants of hate, fear, and separation.

Communication = Freedom

Communication sets us free from these seeds by exposing the lies that are trying to be planted within us. 

Communication locates lies and dismantles them.

The Breakdown of Communication

Healthy Confrontation

It is important that we create a place of safety for open, vulnerable confrontation.  Confrontation is one of the key components of healthy communication and we have demonized the word.

Here are a few guidelines to help this happen:

  • We communicate to understand, not to be right.
  • There are two realities at play in any situation.  
  • Suspicions are either discussed or tossed out.
  • You always get the benefit of the doubt.
  • My presentation during confrontation will not be accusing.
  • My job is not to accuse about what is going on inside of you, but to express what is going on inside of me.


The following breaks down communication:

  • Anger
    • Anger comes from a number of various things such as:
      • Pride
      • Feeling of being attacked
      • The truth touched an area under demonic control
      • We think other’s words automatically set truth without further discussion
      • We believe someone’s words define us.
      • A false belief that you could not be wrong
        • And if you’re wrong about one thing, you’re wrong all the time
  • Self will
    • I want what I want and I’m going to communicate to get what I want
  • We feel accused


Ephesians 4:1-3 NAS Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, 2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, 3 being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

Ephesians 4:31-32 AMP 31 Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind). 32 And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you. 

Accuse (dictionary)

  1. charge someone with an offense or crime.
  2. claim that someone has done something wrong


Zechariah 3:1-5 NAS 1 Then he showed me Joshua the high priest standing before the angel of the Lord, and Satan standing at his right hand to accuse him. 2 The Lord said to Satan, "The Lord rebuke you, Satan! Indeed, the Lord who has chosen Jerusalem rebuke you! Is this not a brand plucked from the fire?" 3 Now Joshua was clothed with filthy garments and standing before the angel. 4 He spoke and said to those who were standing before him, saying, "Remove the filthy garments from him." Again he said to him, "See, I have taken your iniquity away from you and will clothe you with festal robes." 5 Then I said, "Let them put a clean turban on his head." So they put a clean turban on his head and clothed him with garments, while the angel of the Lord was standing by. 

Accusation comes from a religious spirit

Suspicions break unity

Communication breaks suspicion

Verify verify verify!

If you haven’t verified it, it doesn’t exist.

This means you must take control of the emotions and attitudes trying to generate because of the suspicion.

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A Few Things to Remember about Communication:

  1. Communication is a two-way street.
    • It doesn’t work if only one person is willing.
  2. Communication is work.
    • Especially when it has been handled poorly in the past.  You can’t expect someone to just be open with you after you have wounded them every time they were open in the past.
  3. Communication is relational.
    • Therefore, it is unique for each relationship.  I can give you tools, but ultimately each relationship is different and so you will communicate differently with different people.
  4. Communication takes time.
    • It takes time to sit and hash things out and it takes time to get good at doing so.  You will have to be very patient with one another.
  5. If Connection is not the focus, you will not be able to become effective communicators.
    • You will not push through how difficult it is to communicate if you are not sold out to connecting.


Communication Tools


Healthy Confrontation

It is important that we create a place of safety for open, vulnerable confrontation.  Confrontation is one of the key components of healthy communication and we have demonized the word.

Here are a few guidelines to help this happen:

  • We communicate to understand, not to be right.
  • There are two realities at play in any situation.  
  • My goal is for you to understand what is going on inside of me, and for me to understand what is going on inside of you.
  • It is not your job to know what is going on inside of me if I am not willing to communicate it.  (Ben - I will not accuse when I approach you but ask if what I feel is true.)
  • Disclaimer about every little thing needing to be addressed.  Finding the Balance in it.
  • Make it a goal to not react on anything until you’ve gathered all the facts
  • Never settle anything in anger.
  • Work through intimidation

It is important that we learn to seek understanding about the other person’s reality.  We can’t do this if we are communicating to be right.