Raising Kingdom Kids Pt. 4
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Delivered By
Bob Petersen & Nelly Griffitt
Delivered On
February 3, 2019
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Raising Kingdom Kids

 

First, this is not to condemn or shame.

 

Our goal is to raise our kids to graduate them to

1.       Operate in this world successfully

2.      Operate in our Father’s kingdom and prosper

 

The stages of development we will cover are:

1.       Birth to Self-aware  (0-14 months)

2.       Self-aware to Puberty  (14 months-10)

3.       Puberty to Teen  (10-14)

4.       Teen to Adult  (14-18)

 

Everything that happens to a child during their childhood shapes their entire life.

 

Look at how God values kids:

  • Matthew 19:13-15 NAS 13 Then some children were brought to Him so that He might lay His hands on them and pray; and the disciples rebuked them. 14 But Jesus said, "Let the children alone, and do not hinder them from coming to Me; for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."  15 After laying His hands on them, He departed from there.
    • belongs to (Greek): "exists for these children"
      • Literally put it says, “God’s kingdom exists to be possessed by these"
      • With the inference, “let them come to be trained and anointed to possess their Father’s kingdom.”

This is why God told His people to teach their children:

  • Deuteronomy 6:6-8 NAS 6 "These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. 7 "You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.

God values children so much He issues this warning:

  • Matthew 18:4-6 NAS 4 "Whoever then humbles himself as this child, he is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.  5 "And whoever receives one such child in My name receives Me; 6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.

No success, job, societal placing or anything equals the proper upbringing of a child.

 

 Puberty to Teen  (10-14)

  • In this stage everything is the same as far as the parent being the boss and in control.
  • What is different is the type of punishment issued.
  • Corporal punishment will need to cease by the age of ten or it will instill rebellion.

 

 Teen to Adult  (14-18)

  • The parent’s goal when a child reaches high school is to continually release them to function on their own successfully.
  • This stage will require more unconditional love than is humanly possible.
  • If you think it was hard spanking, this stage will challenge you more than any.
  • We must show love while our children are experiencing failure and limits.

 

Boundaries for Kids

We can’t overemphasize the role of empathy for the child who makes a bad choice. It builds a bridge to you instead of a barrier.

 

Look at the love of a father towards his errant son:

  • Luke 15:20-24 TPT 20 “So the young son set off for home. From a long distance away, his father saw him coming, dressed as a beggar, and great compassion swelled up in his heart for his son who was returning home. So the father raced out to meet him. He swept him up in his arms, hugged him dearly, and kissed him over and over with tender love. 21 “Then the son said, ‘Father, I was wrong. I have sinned against you. I could never deserve to be called your son. Just let me be—’ “The father interrupted and said, ‘Son, you’re home now!’ 22 “Turning to his servants, the father said, ‘Quick, bring me the best robe, my very own robe, and I will place it on his shoulders. Bring the ring, the seal of sonship, and I will put it on his finger. And bring out the best shoes you can find for my son. 23 Let’s prepare a great feast and celebrate. 24 For this beloved son of mine was once dead, but now he’s alive again. Once he was lost, but now he is found!’ And everyone celebrated with overflowing joy.

 

DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE PRAYER.

Interview Julie:

©   What was one of the most often prayers prayed?

©   What was your goal in praying over the boys?

©   How did the Holy Spirit play in to praying?

 

Know that God will work with you in parenting!

  • 2 Samuel 7:13-15 NAS 13 "He shall build a house for My name, and I will establish the throne of his kingdom forever. 14 "I will be a father to him and he will be a son to Me; when he commits iniquity, I will correct him with the rod of men and the strokes of the sons of men, 15 but My lovingkindness shall not depart from him

 

  • Some parents can be good in the lower disciplinary stages but don't know how to release their child in the older stages to allow them to make mistakes and still love them.
  • Some parents that won't move past the totalitarian stage & try to control their children into ages that their children should not be controlled.

  • Religion makes us afraid of any type of what would seem failure in our kids so we won't allow them to fail to learn from it.

  • Don’t be embarrassed by your child’s learning.

 

Boundaries for Kids

Self-control doesn’t exist without freedom and choices. So the parent’s task is to give the proper amount of freedom and choices and then manage the consequences. Remember a basic theological truth:

Freedom = Responsibility = Consequences = Love