Offended by the Truth
Delivered By
Bob Petersen
Delivered On
June 12, 2016
Description

Is there a place of offense in you?

Matthew 24:9-13 AMP 9 Then they will hand you over to suffer affliction and tribulation and put you to death, and you will be hated by all nations for My name's sake. 10 And then many will be offended and repelled and will begin to distrust and desert [Him Whom they ought to trust and obey] and will stumble and fall away and betray one another and pursue one another with hatred. 11 And many false prophets will rise up and deceive and lead many into error. 12 And the love of the great body of people will grow cold because of the multiplied lawlessness and iniquity, 13 But he who endures to the end will be saved.

Any place of accepted offense opens you to being offended when it will do you harm.

  • Offense is offense is offense!

The base of offense is from pre-expectation

  • Offense is also shown when someone approaches us in a manner we find offensive
    • They say or do something that is not aggressive or harmful and we respond with aggression.
  • Can you hear the truth without getting mad or offended?

God is going to need to use others to speak into our lives concerning weak areas & open door areas.

We have a generation of parents that have been raised under the thoughts of:

  1. Dr. Spock and no discipline
  2. Self-esteem with entitlement
  • This has produced a political correctness designed to not offend with the truth
  • People that’s careers depend on popularity learn to talk passively so as not to directly speak truth in case that truth will offend.

The body needs words of accountability or correction

See if you’re not offended over your current situation

  • Are we offended when someone doesn’t respond the way we think they should?
    • Ex. You tell someone, “Look what happened to me” only to have them tell you to get over it when you wanted them to coddle it.
    • Someone is mad over a situation and you try to bring reason and now you’re the bad guy
    • Do you blow up over unmerited situations?
    • What truth about you did you get offended over?
    • What instruction/correction did you not like even though it was right.
  • Do you throw up a defense of anger to back people away when you’re approached in an area you don’t want?
    • Harmless Frilled Lizards use a fearful front to scare would be predators.

Offended (Dictionary) resentful or annoyed, typically as a result of a perceived insult.

The Father’s voice is not always soothing and palatable to us.

  • His sends prophetic words to me through others
  • Is our reaction to those speaking truth into our lives like the hard hearted?
    • Acts 7:51-52 NLT 51 "You stubborn people! You are heathen at heart and deaf to the truth. Must you forever resist the Holy Spirit? That's what your ancestors did, and so do you! 52 Name one prophet your ancestors didn't persecute! They even killed the ones who predicted the coming of the Righteous One—the Messiah whom you betrayed and murdered.

Matthew 15:12-13 AMP 12 Then the disciples came and said to Him, Do You know that the Pharisees were displeased and offended and indignant when they heard this saying? 13 He answered, Every plant which My heavenly Father has not planted will be torn up by the roots.

We need to get a hold on out of control anger

  • Anger is a secondary emotion defense mechanism used when offended
    • That anger that rises up to protect yourself when you’re offended is a secondary emotion.

Anger is used to control a situation

  • When one person is trying to convince but doesn’t have the info to make the case they resort to anger.
    • This is a type of witchcraft and is hidden but still open doors on that person.

Anger is often called a secondary emotion.

  • We tend to resort to anger in order to protect ourselves from or cover up other vulnerable feelings.
    • A primary feeling is what is what is felt immediately before we feel anger.
  • We might first feel afraid, attacked, offended, disrespected, forced, trapped, pressured, etc.
    • And then anger surfaces as a mechanism to protect us from deeper things.

Secondary Emotion Icebergs

  • Ask yourself, “what causes me to get angry in a situation.”

Offenders are often the most offendable

  • The judgement used to “tell others the truth” is projected back at them making them unapproachable.

Proverbs 19:11 ESV Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.

God’s people have allowed themselves to manifest anger at will and now the anger manifests on it’s own.

  • 2 Timothy 2:24-26 NAS 24 The Lord's bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged, 25 with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth, 26 and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will.

False expectations in people can result in disappointment and hurt feelings

  • The Bible says that “love and forgiveness” will keep us from stumbling.
    • 1 John 2:10 NAS The one who loves his brother abides in the Light and there is no cause for stumbling in him.

The Lord has not called us to put our expectations in people. He has called us to love and forgive them!

  • Ephesians 4:32 NAS Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

Love is the ultimate cure for offenses.

  • It will eradicate self-centeredness that thrives on its own interests and rights (1 Cor. 13:5)
  • And will forgive those who disappoint us. “...for love will cover a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8).